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  • Love

    Love

    Real love is internal. Real gratitude is internal.

    We can express our love or our gratitude. Expression is external. It’s helpful to have a starting place of how to express the stuff.

    Start with effect

    Magic catalogs list tricks starting with the effect. They first describe what the audience sees. Telling the story of something impossible happening. Here’s an example from penguin magic…

    You show a coin and place it on your spectator’s hand. With complete confidence you wave your hand (fingers open) over the coin…

    The coin vanishes right before the spectator’s eyes in one of the most visual moments in all of magic. The best part is, your hands can be shown completely clean!

    Explaining the difference the trick makes is a great way to describe the trick in a way that matters. Explaining the difference in ourselves is a great way to express love. Instead of “I love you sooo much” saying “my eyes go crossed when I think of your smile”

    More examples…

    • “You made me rethink my situation and it blew me away”
    • “that one small gift is still sticking in my head 3 years later”
    • “it inspires me to see what you’re doing for kids”
    • “I could really use a wink from you right now”

    Real love … real words

    We can want people to do things for us and love them at the same time. We can think that things that are good for us are mutually beneficial. When I tell artists to fall in love with their customers, I mean it genuinely. Love people. Express the love. Sincerely. being real is more fun and more convincing and more valuable to everyone.

    Easy to believe

    When there’s some objectivity, there’s believability. Saying the result of love makes us sound more real. It feels good to remind ourselves what we mean by love. It attunes us to what’s important to us.

    Take action : Tell someone how they change or have changed you.

  • LOOTERS – A detailed proposal format without any  wreckage

    LOOTERS – A detailed proposal format without any wreckage

    Yesterday, I wrote about the LAP – a shortcut for progressive communication. Here’s a longer shortcut. When making a proposal, there’s often a lot more to communicate and we want to do it in order.

    Here’s a video about it.

    I may or may not have had a sore throat. since recording it, i’ve changed the R to Results.

    L 💚 Love – Express genuine love and enthusiasm for the person and their project. ( show love )
    O 🎯 Objective – Clearly state the objectives and goals of the person you’re addressing. ( value pile )
    O 🌟 Opportunity – Highlight the opportunity and how you can help achieve the objectives. ( opportunity )
    T 🤝 Trust – Build trust by sharing your credentials, past successes, and testimonials. ( trust )
    E 💪 Effort – Outline the scope of work and what effort will be required to achieve the objectives. ( effort )
    R 📋 Results – Specify the results, including cost and any necessary resources or conditions. ( results )
    S 🚶 Step Forward – Provide a clear next action for the client to take. ( step forward )

    Here’s a thorough ChatGPT prompt to help you craft one. I haven’t tested this prompt very much. Please let me know how it goes.

    I want you to help me write a proposal to a prospect using Scot Nery’s LOOTERS format. I’m an entertainer. I want you to ask me a series of questions until you completely understand all the info necessary to write a complete proposal. All of this is custom to the situation, so it will take you asking me many questions.

    give me the whole proposal in a code box as plain text, ready to copy and paste to the prospect. The client does not need to know that I am using the LOOTERS format. The text should flow well for the reader. We don’t need headings. don’t add confusing characters like “*” or emojis. make it read like a normal email.

    important: Ask me one question at a time.
    the first question is “is this proposal for a single person (point of contact), or for a commitee? ” second question is “what is the point of contact’s name?”
    Objective:
    Create a detailed, collaborative, and educational proposal using the LOOTERS framework. The proposal should be tailored for freelance artists pitching entertainment gigs to prospects after having a conversation with them. Ensure each section is thorough, clear, and aligns with the client’s needs, fostering a sense of partnership and mutual goal achievement. The tone should be warm, inclusive, and professional—never salesy or pushy.
    Introduction to LOOTERS Framework
    The LOOTERS framework is a structured approach to crafting proposals that ensures each section serves a distinct purpose, collectively building a compelling and client-focused document. This framework is designed to foster collaboration, clarity, and value, making the proposal both informative and engaging for the client. Below is a detailed breakdown of each section:
    L 💚 Love – Show Genuine Enthusiasm
    Purpose: Express heartfelt enthusiasm and genuine care for the client and their project. Establish an emotional connection and set a positive, collaborative tone.
    Key Elements:
    Specific admiration for the client’s work, mission, or achievements.
    Personal anecdotes or examples that highlight why you value working with them.
    Inclusive language that emphasizes a partnership approach.
    The love section could also include personal reasons I’m interested in the prospect’s success / life. “eg: we are both Fighting Buckeys!” or “My father suffered from ALS, so your work in that field is dear to my heart”
    O 🎯 Objective – Define Their Goals
    Purpose: Clearly articulate the client’s goals and objectives, creating a comprehensive “value pile” that outlines desired outcomes.
    Key Elements:
    Detailed and measurable objectives.
    Inclusive language (e.g., “we want to achieve…”).
    Alignment with the client’s broader mission or vision.
    explore the idea of obstacles that may come up eg “we want the show to inspire the staff to start conversations, even though they usually are very introverted”
    the more overlapping objectives we can include in here, the more irreplaceable I will be.
    O 🌟 Opportunity – Show Feasibility and Confidence
    Purpose: Reassure the client that their objectives are achievable and worth the commitment. Highlight unique opportunities and instill confidence through examples or success stories.
    Key Elements:
    Confident statements about the feasibility of achieving goals.
    Examples of past successes with similar clients or projects.
    Emphasis on why this moment is ideal for action.
    T 🤝 Trust – Build Credibility
    Purpose: Establish trust by showcasing your expertise, experience, and past successes. Provide objective proof of your ability to deliver.
    Key Elements:
    Credentials, testimonials, and relevant case studies.
    Specific stories or examples that demonstrate reliability and success.
    Clear connection between your expertise and the client’s needs.
    E 💪 Effort – Outline the Work
    Purpose: Transparently outline the scope of work, including contributions from both sides, with financial details presented last. Include detailed package options with flat rates.
    Key Elements:
    Broad descriptions of tasks and responsibilities.
    Specific client contributions beyond financial investment (e.g., meetings, resources).
    Detailed package options with comprehensive scope of work for each flat-rate package.
    Clear, upfront presentation of financial costs after outlining effort.
    R 📋 Results – Specify Outcomes
    Purpose: Summarize the objectives with added excitement, clearly specifying the outcomes and benefits the client will gain. This serves as a TL;DR of the Objectives section.
    Key Elements:
    Clear, measurable, and inspiring outcomes.
    Direct tie to the client’s goals.
    Emphasis on the value and impact of achieving these results.
    S 🚶 Step Forward – Provide Next Steps
    Purpose: Offer a clear, actionable next step for the client to take, ensuring the process feels easy and inviting.
    Key Elements:
    Specific and simple actions (e.g., scheduling a meeting, replying to confirm).
    Collaborative language that reinforces partnership.
    Elimination of any ambiguity to facilitate smooth progression.
    Detailed Instructions for ChatGPT
    To ensure the proposal is comprehensive, high-value, and aligns perfectly with the LOOTERS framework, follow these detailed steps:
    Step 1: Understand the Client and Context
    Begin by gathering in-depth information about the client and the project to tailor the proposal effectively.
    Client Overview:
    Questions to Ask:
    Who is the client? (e.g., individual artist, organization, event coordinator)
    What is their mission or primary focus?
    What are their standout qualities, achievements, or unique aspects?
    What do we admire about their work or goals?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can you share a specific project or achievement of the client that inspires us?”
    “What values or missions do they prioritize in their work?”
    Gig or Project Description:
    Questions to Ask:
    What type of gig or project are we proposing? (e.g., live performance, workshop, collaborative event)
    Describe the tone and style of the gig. (e.g., energetic, educational, interactive)
    What specific goals or outcomes do we envision for this gig?
    What is the setting or context? (e.g., corporate event, community festival, private party)
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can you elaborate on the desired atmosphere or experience for the audience?”
    “What are the key elements that must be included in this performance?”
    Relationship Context:
    Questions to Ask:
    What is our current relationship with the prospect? (e.g., new client, repeat client, referral)
    How familiar is the client with our work or services?
    Have we collaborated before? If so, what was the outcome?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can you describe any past interactions or projects with this client?”
    “How does the client typically engage with our services?”
    Step 2: Dive Into Each Section of LOOTERS
    For each LOOTERS section, ask specific, probing questions to ensure completeness and depth. Use the following guidelines:
    L 💚 Love – Show Genuine Enthusiasm
    Purpose: Build an emotional connection by expressing genuine admiration and excitement for the client and their project.
    Questions to Ask:
    What specific aspects of the client’s work or mission do we admire?
    How does this project align with our own passions or values?
    Can we share a personal anecdote or example that highlights why we’re excited to work with them?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we describe a particular moment or project of theirs that left a strong impression on us?”
    “What unique qualities of the client inspire us the most?”
    O 🎯 Objective – Define Their Goals
    Purpose: Clearly outline the client’s goals in detail, creating a comprehensive list of desired outcomes.
    Questions to Ask:
    What are the primary objectives the client wants to achieve with this project?
    What problems (pain points) does your prospect have? What’s going to cost them time, money, and/or energy?
    Are there any secondary or long-term goals associated with these objectives?
    How do these goals align with the client’s broader mission or vision?
    Can we break down each objective into specific, measurable components?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we identify any additional objectives that would enhance the value of this project?”
    “How can we prioritize these objectives to reflect the client’s most important goals?”
    We’re trying to turn implied objectives and obstacles into explicit objectives.
    O 🌟 Opportunity – Show Feasibility and Confidence
    Purpose: Reassure the client that their goals are achievable and worth the commitment by highlighting unique opportunities and past successes.
    Questions to Ask:
    Why is this project or opportunity particularly special or timely for the client?
    What makes this an ideal moment for the client to act on their goals?
    Do we have examples of past clients who achieved similar objectives? What were the outcomes?
    What confident statements or data can we provide to demonstrate feasibility?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we share a success story of a similar project that achieved outstanding results?”
    “What unique advantages do we offer that make this opportunity particularly promising?”
    T 🤝 Trust – Build Credibility
    Purpose: Establish trust by showcasing expertise, experience, and past successes relevant to the client’s needs.
    Questions to Ask:
    What credentials, certifications, or qualifications do we have that are relevant to this project?
    Do we have testimonials or case studies from past clients that align with the current prospect’s goals?
    Can we highlight specific achievements or projects that demonstrate our ability to deliver similar results?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we provide a detailed case study that mirrors the client’s current objectives?”
    “What testimonials can we include that specifically speak to our reliability and success?”
    E 💪 Effort – Outline the Work
    Purpose: Transparently outline the scope of work, including contributions from both sides, with financial details presented last. Include detailed package options with flat rates.
    Questions to Ask:
    What are the main tasks and responsibilities we will undertake to achieve the objectives?
    What specific contributions will the client need to make beyond financial investment? (e.g., meetings, resources)
    What logistical details, timelines, or deliverables should be included to set clear expectations?
    What package options can we offer that include detailed scope of work with flat rates?
    How can we structure these packages to provide flexibility and clarity without overwhelming the client?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we outline the specific steps we’ll take to prepare and execute the gig?”
    “What client contributions are essential for the success of this project?”
    “Can we develop comprehensive package options that include all necessary elements without itemized pricing?”
    R 📋 Results – Specify Outcomes
    Purpose: Provide a concise summary of the objectives with added excitement, clearly specifying the outcomes and benefits the client will gain.
    Questions to Ask:
    What are the tangible benefits and results the client will achieve from this project?
    How can we make these outcomes measurable and specific?
    What is the emotional or business impact of achieving these results for the client?
    How can we tie the outcomes directly to the client’s initial objectives?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we quantify the expected outcomes to make them more compelling?”
    “How can we phrase the results to highlight their significance and excitement?”
    S 🚶 Step Forward – Provide Next Steps
    Purpose: Offer a clear, actionable next step for the client to take, ensuring the process feels easy and inviting.
    Questions to Ask:
    What is the simplest and most inviting next step for the client?
    How can we phrase this step to make it feel effortless and collaborative?
    Should we suggest a specific meeting, reply, or action to facilitate smooth progression?
    Follow-Up Prompts:
    “Can we propose a specific time for a follow-up call or meeting to discuss the proposal further?”
    “What action can we ask the client to take that feels natural and unobtrusive?”
    Step 3: Ensure Completeness and High-Value Content
    For each section, evaluate whether enough information is provided to create a high-value proposal. If any section feels incomplete or lacks depth, ask additional, specific questions to gather the necessary details.
    Love:
    “Do we have enough specific examples of what we admire about the client?”
    “Can we include a personal story that highlights our enthusiasm?”
    Objective:
    “Have we clearly defined all of the client’s main and secondary objectives?”
    “Are the objectives measurable and aligned with their broader goals?”
    Opportunity:
    “Is the opportunity presented in a way that feels urgent and valuable?”
    “Do we have enough examples or confident statements to show feasibility?”
    Trust:
    “Have we included all relevant credentials and testimonials?”
    “Are our past successes clearly connected to the client’s current needs?”
    Effort:
    “Are the scope of work and client contributions fully detailed?”
    “Do our package options include comprehensive descriptions of services?”
    Results:
    “Are the outcomes clearly tied to the client’s objectives?”
    “Have we quantified the benefits to make them more compelling?”
    Step Forward:
    “Is the next step clear and easy for the client to take?”
    “Have we provided a specific, actionable instruction for moving forward?”
    Step 4: Draft the Proposal
    Once all sections are complete and thoroughly detailed, compile the information into a cohesive, polished proposal following the LOOTERS structure.
    Guidelines for Drafting:
    Use clear, engaging, and professional language.
    Maintain a warm and collaborative tone throughout.
    Ensure each section flows logically into the next, building a compelling narrative.
    Highlight measurable results and actionable steps to reinforce value.
    Avoid jargon or overly technical terms that might confuse the client.
    Step 5: Review and Refine
    After drafting, conduct a thorough review to ensure the proposal aligns with the client’s needs and your vision for the project.
    Questions to Ask During Review:
    “Does this proposal fully address the client’s objectives and demonstrate how we can achieve them?”
    “Is the tone consistently collaborative and educational, avoiding any salesy language?”
    “Are all sections complete, detailed, and free from ambiguity?”
    “Do the Effort packages provide clear, comprehensive descriptions without relying on itemized or hourly pricing?”
    “Are the Results compelling, measurable, and directly tied to the client’s goals?”
    “Is the Call to Action clear, simple, and inviting for the client to take the next step?”
    Refinement Steps:
    Adjust language for clarity and impact.
    Add or remove details to enhance each section’s effectiveness.
    Ensure the overall proposal is easy to read and visually appealing.
    Step 6: Examples to Guide the Process
    Provide examples for each LOOTERS section to ensure clarity and consistency. These examples should reflect the tone and detail expected in the proposal.
    Example for “Love”
    Instead of:
    “We love what you’re doing!”
    Use:
    “We love how your event combines creativity and community, especially your focus on supporting local artists. That’s something we’re passionate about, too, and it’s why we’re so excited to work together.”
    Example for “Objective”
    Instead of:
    “You want a great show for your guests.”
    Use a Value Pile:
    “We want to create a high-energy, engaging experience for your audience that: Feels personalized to your event theme. Impresses attendees with a unique act they’ve likely never seen before. Keeps the energy high throughout the evening. Is easy to set up and run without stress.”
    Example for “Opportunity”
    Instead of:
    “We’ve done this kind of event before—it’s possible!”
    Use Confident Statements and Examples:
    “We’ve worked with organizations like yours to deliver similar events, and they’ve seen incredible results. For example, last year, we helped a local nonprofit create a live performance series that boosted attendance by 30% and left attendees raving for weeks. Your event has all the right elements to achieve the same success.”
    Example for “Trust”
    Instead of:
    “My horse just performed at a venue like yours.”
    Use Specificity and Detail:
    “At the Governor’s Ball, my horse became the centerpiece of the evening, drawing gasps and applause from a room of 500 corporate executives.”
    Example for “Effort” with Detailed Packages
    Instead of:
    “I’ll need to arrive early and set up.”
    Use Transparency and Detailed Packages:
    “Our work includes: Arriving two hours before the event to handle all setup and technical needs. Providing a 45-minute performance with interactive elements to keep the audience engaged. Creating custom material tailored to your event theme. Conducting a tech rehearsal to ensure everything runs smoothly. Staying afterward for a 15-minute meet-and-greet with attendees. Our flat-rate packages are designed to make the process simple and flexible: Package A: Performance Only – $2,500 Includes a 45-minute show and setup. Package B: Performance + Interaction – $3,500 Includes everything in Package A, plus a 15-minute meet-and-greet. Package C: Full Engagement – $5,000 Includes everything in Package B, plus custom material creation and a tech rehearsal.”
    Example for “Results”
    Use a Concise Summary with Excitement:
    “This program will increase audience engagement by 30%, provide a unique and memorable experience, and position your event as a standout in the community. The total investment of $5,000 will cover all aspects of the performance, ensuring a seamless and impactful evening for all attendees.”
    Example for “Step Forward”
    Use Clear and Specific Instructions:
    “If this proposal aligns with your vision, let’s schedule a quick 15-minute call next week to finalize the details and get started. Please reply with your availability, and we’ll coordinate a time that works for you.”
    Step 4: Begin the Process
    Start by asking detailed questions to gather all necessary information about the client and the project.
    About the Client:
    Who is the client? What do they do, and what do we admire about them?
    Can you share a specific project or achievement of the client that inspires us?
    About the Project:
    What type of gig or project are we proposing? Describe it in plain English, including tone, style, and specific goals.
    What is the setting or context (e.g., corporate event, workshop, creative collaboration)?
    About the Relationship:
    What is our relationship with the prospect? Are they a new client, a returning one, or someone familiar with our work?
    How much do they already know about what we do?
    Once you have these details, proceed to dive into each LOOTERS section with targeted questions to ensure completeness and depth.
    Final Notes
    Tone and Language:
    Use inclusive “we” language to emphasize partnership.
    Maintain a warm, professional, and supportive tone.
    Ensure clarity and avoid jargon to make the proposal easy to read and understand.
    Avoiding Pitfalls:
    Don’t be vague or generic—be specific and detailed.
    Avoid being overly formal or salesy; keep the focus on collaboration and mutual success.
    Ensure financial details are clear but presented after establishing value and effort.
    Customization and Flexibility:
    Tailor each proposal to the specific client and project.
    Use examples and detailed descriptions to make each section relevant and compelling.
    Be prepared to ask follow-up questions to gather any missing information. Really get the proposal to empathize with the point person or committee so that it speaks their language. Push me and ask me new questions to get it out of me. before each question, tell me little status updates like “I think we’re almost there. I may have 5 more questions…” or “We’re 50% of the way there. stick with me!”
  • Love, Affirm, Progress – Take a leap forward together

    Love, Affirm, Progress – Take a leap forward together

    We all want a shortcut to having others do our bidding because our bidding is always right! We do this with their best interest at heart.

    Everyone is great!

    1. I can get impatient. I see a solution to a situation and I want it moving. I want to go and fix and make things awesome ASAP. I can get fixated on progress. I can be pushy or seem irrational.
    2. Others feel safest when they’re analyzing a situation. Pick it apart, figure out how it feels. Maybe even wallow in it.
    3. Some folks want to appreciate themselves and others. They want to give a lot of love and find a lot of love.

    All these people are rad. I love people who weigh heavier on these different stages.

    Success in communication and empathy

    We are tribal. A primary drive is to not be alone. As a result, we’ve all gotten lots of hours in of understanding empathy, motivation, and communication styles of others.

    Let’s move! Ignore the personality types.

    There are labels that people put on people. Eg: this person is type-a or this is a D on the DISC scale. To me, it feels a little icky though I appreciate that people are trying to connect. Instead of objectifying people, I try to systematize the process. A friend calls it my LAP dance. Love, Affirm, Progress.

    From the list at the top, you can see them in reverse order : 1️⃣ progress (what we do next) 2️⃣ affirm (where we at) 3️⃣ love (show that we’re safe and all on the same page)

    Meet people wherever they are with the LAP

    If the recipient of your message is in need of any part of the LAP, giving them the whole thing will do the trick. We can give them the whole LAP and they’ll join us along the way 😀

    Here’s an example of a text message using the LAP.

    I’m pumped to see you! I need your sunshine right now! You’re so great at picking restaurants that are delicious and adventurous. I know you put a ton of thought into Sandy’s Diner. Could you possibly find a spot that has more vegan things on the menu?

    We all need this

    Everyone needs all three stages. Sometimes those stages are implied. For me, the LAP is a way to know the process to get people to understand how I think. For me, being unbalancedly progress oriented, it reminds me to tell people the truth up front

    • I really do love the people I’m talking to.
    • I appreciate the situation we’re in and i want it to be even better
    • I am eager to present a way to move forward with fun

    Any of us can get stuck in any part of the LAP, so this is a way to be more well-rounded in communication.

    The technique can expand to large writing projects or oral communication or whatever!

    Take Action : send a text

    practice it now. Send a message to someone with something easy you want to improve, propose a phone call, or whatever. Giving someone an all-three message is a great gift. It keeps us playing the game of life together.

  • Tribal Margin of Acceptance

    Tribal Margin of Acceptance

    We want to think bigger like other people do. It feels dangerous. There’s a reason that trying to do gigs for 2x as much feels like life or death. There’s a reason that imagining buying a big house with art makes us eat a whole pizza.

    It’s a matter of life and death.

    We’re tribal. We live in tribes and we die when we leave them. Living in a tribe in a village, if we’re kicked out of the village, if the tribe rejects us, we are dead. We can’t defend ourselves, we can’t find food or water. We die. Rejection kills us. This is built in to who we are. So, when my tribe (the people i surround myself with) tells me that I’m not allowed to live in a trailer park, and I’m also not allowed to live in a 5 bedroom house with a pool, I listen. I know that they’re right. It’s an unquestioned ruling that is built into my nervous system. It’s just as important as looking out for tigers.

    Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This makes it sound like a delightful little tidbit to make our lives a little better and it’s a good thing to remember. The truth of why it feels so important and impossible sometimes to swing for the fences, is that we are gonna die.

    The people that care about us also want to keep us safe. They want to keep us in the tribe and want everyone in the tribe to accept us. That means caring advice is often bad advice – it’s based on preservation in an artifical dangerzone rather than growth and thriving.

    By having big ambitions, it’s worth it to do big stuff.

    Rebel

    One thing we can do is risk death by denying the tribal margin of acceptance. We can rebel against what our loved ones tell us. This sucks because it makes us feel in danger the entire time we’re doing it

    Move

    We can change tribes. This is painful if done all at once. Say goodbye to everyone close and move on. This is a thing that addicts in recovery or reformed criminals can do especially when actual life and death is on the line.

    Lens Change

    We can have conversations with people who are most influential to us. We can find out if our boyfriend really wants us to get a day job, or if that’s a misinterpretation. We can find out if our aunt really believes that art is a waste. Even though our tribe can be limiting, sometimes it’s helpful to see what the real limits are so we can expand within them.

    Take action : get out

    Send a text message right now to someone that’s inspirational to you. Someone who might feel like they’re too good for you. Someone who you think has a good quality that could rub off. We don’t have to cancel our entire tribe. We can just take a loaf of bread to another one.

  • OPOV : Objective Proof of Value

    OPOV : Objective Proof of Value

    In this popular post i wrote, I talked about some devices i use to show value on a single page website. It’s the same stuff i use for all promo materials. It can be costly to get all the content together. The costly parts are the branding and the organization of the educational materials. I call those educational materials OPOV.

    Here’s the sheet so you can organize your sheet. Holy sheet!

    https://scot.fun/zNNa

  • Natural art is not natural

    Natural art is not natural

    We want to express ourselves clearly, truthfully, authentically. We want our art to feel as natural as our heroes’ arts. We want to flow our true hearts out to other hearts.

    As with most things, it doesn’t look the same from the outside as it is on the inside and truth is not the same as “just being honest”

    The inner workings are complicated

    While Taraji P. Henson is a true badass and a bold personality who can be intimidating on screen, my interaction with her was sweet and almost timid. She spent time in a dark corner rehearsing her lines with a coach and smiling at kind people on set. She was in charge of a whole production based around her personality. The work she did for the world was very different from what the audience sees.

    If she were to show up being the give-no-fucks character she portrays on TV sometimes, the result would be very different and, I’m betting, would betray the truth of who she is.

    Truth tellers are lying

    When someone calls themself a truth teller, the words they say might stand up to fact checking, but the resulting perceived message is usually way off. I could describe a dog as “an animal who’s most important feature is it’s nose. It is more than 10k times more sensitive than a human’s.” the listener might picture an aardvark and would have a very different impression than how a normal person in the know would picture a dog – cute, domesticated, mammal, smart, friendly.

    It’s important for our mental health

    It’s important for us as creatives to remember that this stuff is weird and we’re doing it right when authenticity feels artificial. Just being publicly seen and being vulnerable to so many is unnatural. We need to employ unnatural methods to do it right.

    Take Action: : Get perspective

    Journal write down an admired artist. Imagine one real day in their life. when they wake up, how they eat, what their actual work looks like. Are they spending all their time letting their imagine turn to craft, or are they bumming around and trying to find a pigment? Waiting for the piano tuner to show up and trimming their own hair? Being pissed off about some other artist? Trying to figure out why noone is buying from them?

  • Hard like a hammer. Easy like a Unicorn. UNBLOCKED

    Hard like a hammer. Easy like a Unicorn. UNBLOCKED

    When I feel stuck. It’s selfish. I want to be in the mindset of creativity and generosity

    A Hammer not a unicorn we try to feel special because we think that will give our lives meaning and make us fulfilled in being different.  THis is a misinterpretation of feelings.  We want to be useful.  When I see a hammer that’s old and has no scratches or dents, i know that’s an unfulfilled hammer.  That hammer doesn’t see herself as very powerful or useful.  A unicorn is beautiful and special and interesting, but what use does it have? We are most fulfilled when we’re exhausted from doing something awesome. We’re most fulfilled when we’re used fully and wrecked as an ugly tool. Appreciated, not ogeled .

    Quit the sacrifice  I want to continue the mindset of being generous and creative as many microseconds of my life as possible.  To do this, we need to make it sustainable.  If you think being self-sacrificing is sustainable, you’re a dummy.  And being sacrificing isn’t generous.  Generosity comes from having something, and then giving it.  Gratitude is the key to having something in surplus and knowing what you have so you can give it. If you have a terrible life, why try to defend it?

    Why Generosity is the solution when i’m nervous about getting on stage, it’s because i’m being selfish. I’m thinking about protecting myself from humiliation, harm and other suffering. The powerful mindset for me that has gotten me on stage since age 11 ( including in 15,000 seat amphitheaters ) is generosity “I can help these people” “Without me, these folks will be bored” etc. This is the same case with writer’s block, going on dates, job interviews, pitch meetings, 

    Why mindset and not a feeling Feelings are great. We’re human beings with awesome feelings — all of the feelings are gifts and they’re also out of our control. I believe a lot of our language around feelings is messed up.  “Did that make you happy” “you hurt my feelings” “i’m feeling bad”… Our feelings are changing all the time. I can feel angry at the moment I get exactly what I want. I can feel happy when I hear a dear friend dies. Believing that these feelings are wrong or that I need to seek “positive feelings” has wasted a lot of time for me.  You can’t buy happiness, but you also can’t therapy happiness, or marry happiness, or give birth to happiness. Happiness is a feeling that can pass in 15 seconds. Is that worth a life’s pursuit?  We have much more control over our mindsets. 

    My pen breaks. I can have the mindset of “ I’ll never find another pen like this. This was my favorite pen. This will teach me to ever fall in love with anything. I broke it because I’m stupid.  I could have done more pen maintenance, but I’m a lazy dick.”  Or you can have the mindset “I’m free to get a new pen! Who knows how deeply I might love the next one? I love shopping. I am grateful that I got to use such an awesome pen for as long as i did. Some people never experience the relationship that my pen and I had.”  I can be sad, mad, scared, joyful, peaceful, powerful with either of these mindsets. I could go through all of these feelings too.  For me, the second mindset helps me move forward. It motivates me to move on to the next challenge with enthusiasm and energy.

    I can choose that mindset, so why not choose that one?

    Take action : journal and decide

    write down how you feel now. Really feel it. Appreciate it, enjoy it. soak it in. Without trying to change the feeling, write down a mindset how you want it to be. Let the feeling linger as long as it wants. Believe the new mindset. Gain power and gusto from making a strong decision

  • celebrate the work, not the result

    celebrate the work, not the result

    There are days where it seems there’s no end in sight. Days when I feel that I’m trying to walk ahead on perfect ice. Days when I feel that nothing’s really worth it. Days when it’s boring, or stressful beyond what i want.

    This is when I try to give myself a pat on the back. Grab a treat. Take a 30 min vacation.

    When I am feeling good about my stuff, I also want this reward. Consistency is what I’m aiming for. I want my people to feel that I’ll always show up for them. I’m not here for a trophy. I’m here to create regularly.

    I deserve an “atta boy!” every time i try.

    If i win an award or public accolade, I try to remind myself there were a lot of days involved in that. Surprisingly, this doesn’t damper the satisfaction.

    Celebrating the work means solidness

    • I build my confidence
    • I focus on the right stuff
    • I have a more comforting and dependable life experience
    • I want to work more
    • I have a salve for painful moments
    • I get self-love
    • I can ignore the noise of perceived glory

    I really needed to hear this today. I forgot it.

    Take action : cheer!

    1. physically pat yourself on the back
    2. Think of something you did today that you liked – even if it’s small
    3. imagine a little graduation party for yourself
    4. get back to work
  • Simplifying Business… Affirmation: I am a taco stand

    Simplifying Business… Affirmation: I am a taco stand

    Sometimes a little fantasy comes up for me that I run a taco stand. I quit everything else, and just absolutely kill it running an amazing taco stand in my neighborhood. If I could offer low priced tacos in a clean place that are delicious, I could have non-stop business. It would be so simple and straightforward. I would have a five item menu and everyone would love it.

    This fantasy comes from feeling overwhelmed in showbiz

    Seeing my business from the inside, my business is really complicated. I’m managing…

    • daily work
    • relationships – professional and personal
    • my past
    • my future
    • my energy
    • my time
    • my money
    • organizing stuff
    • automation / outsourcing
    • passion
    • resting

    When I chill with the fantasizing and pull back, I remember that a taco stand would still have all of these things. I realize that things feel complicated on the inside and simple when looking at a business from the outside. So, it’s helpful for me to look at and get help looking at my business from the outside. I am a taco stand.

    A taco stand is simple

    When I quit all the awesome I’m doing and set up my taco stand, here’s all that I’ll have to deal with…

    1. Making a delicious taco (value creation)
    2. Setting up my stand and service (value delivery)
    3. Make people want to buy and buy more (sales)
    4. Put up signage and get yelp reviews (marketing)
    5. Make sure I’m making enough money to sustain & grow (finance)

    This is the simple template of every business. If I’m not seeing my business in this way, I’m not seeing my business clearly. I’m going to get overwhelmed.

    Take action : Get well rounded like a tortilla

    rate each of the 5 things listed above for your business on a scale of one to ten. What’s the weakness?

  • Zoom Meetings that feel Fun! ZV1 meeting teleprompter setup

    Zoom Meetings that feel Fun! ZV1 meeting teleprompter setup

    Many people that hate Zoom meetings, truly enjoy having them with me. I enjoy them very much too. I think a big part of that is my camera quality and my ability to look directly into their eyes.

    I’m using a Sony ZV1 as a webcame with a teleprompter ( a mirror setup so that I can look thru the screen into the camera. Their face is centered on the screen and I’m looking directly at them so that they get eye contact and I get to watch their expression. This makes communication so much more full.

    Set up details and equipment

    i did a lot of experimenting to get here.


    Set your zv1 to aperture priority. You want the aperture as open as possible to get maximum background blur 

    My auto focus is on continuous

    I have a 

    • FeelWorld 10.1″ 4K HDMI Field Monitor on my teleprompter. There are all kinds of cheaper monitors now and iPads and stuff. here’s a less expensive one… https://a.co/d/53CbLIN … the teleprompter’s max width it can be 10.75″ it must be able to reverse an image so that it will work with the teleprompter to display correctly
    • Glide Gear TMP100 https://a.co/d/1ICAsH7
    • I’m using a dummy battery. I think the ZV1 can connect and be powered by USB instead https://a.co/d/egRgpsQ
    • Because of my dummy battery, I’m keeping the battery door open, so I need a cage on the bottom of it https://a.co/d/eHWUxIA
    • I use a really simple cold shoe to mount my camera becuase the zv 1 is so light. https://bit.ly/3RaaYnm
    • To mount the teleprompter to the arm on my desktop, I have a tripod head so that I can easily manipulate the camera angle https://bit.ly/47pKLXy
    • Since I’m using HDMI, I have a micro to normal HDMI cable
    • I am using an El Gato camlink Video capture  card https://a.co/d/jcTgERn I tried the generic and it crunches the colors
    • Another helpful tip: i use https://scot.fun/zNNV a mac app called “big clock” that helps me see the time quickly during a zoom call without having to look away from my co-talker

    Since you have the usb powering your camera, you could probably go USB straight in to your computer and that would power it and send the video signal in without HDMI. I haven’t tested this. I hear the video quality is better thru HDMI

    The cold shoe is under my camera ; screwed in to the bottom of it. Looks like this… That gives the camera more height and gives me a quick release that’s easy to use on my various tripods and stuff when I travel with the camera.

    Oh, also the cardboard you see here is a little adapter I made using a jar of nuts, a piece of cardboard, some tape and black paint. I can make you one if you’d like. Usually the teleprompter cloth fits around the camera lens, but since the zv1 has no lens body, I needed something for it to wrap around. My adapter just sits up against the front of the camera with no attachments – very buddhist. There’s this drawstring bag thing that closes the teleprompter around a normal lens body. The zv1 lens doesn’t stick out much, so it can’t attach to it. Instead, I attach the bag to my adapter thing and then set the adapter against the front of the camera.

    I keep the viewfinder window folded out to help reduce heat. Before my studio was air conditioned, i added a fan that would blow on the camera to keep it from overheating.

  • Prophet for Profit

    Prophet for Profit

    I had a client that came to me for a very small role in their staff party entertainment. They have access to a bunch of performers, so I felt that all I could do is try to offer them the lowest price possible. I like them and wanted to be genuinely helpful.

    I talked to the point person feeling like I was not very useful and probably not very valuable and probably would have to charge too much for them to hire me. A few minutes in to the conversation, I started to envision what the gig would actually be. As i dug in more to how they were planning it, what the experience for the audience would be, etc…

    1. my imposter syndrome disappeared
    2. my understanding of what i could do for them went up
    3. my irreplaceablitly went thru the roof
    4. the amount of money i quoted them was multiplied by 12
    5. they got something insanely awesome and it dug them out of a hole they didn’t even know they were in

    This imagining process takes time, it takes energy, and it gets stronger with experience. My best advice for quick pricing is to imagine the gig and give a price based on that. This is what I mean. We wanna listen and really hear what’s being set up so that we can do our best. We can imagine together with our potential customers so that they get something amazing and are excited to pay for it.

    Once we listen, we can often see how much we know that the prospect doesn’t know. They have a very differnt experience in life than we do.

    Take Action:

    Think about one gig from your past that was not fulfilling. Write down three questions that you could have asked to help you imagine the gig beforehand.

    If you have a gig on the line right now, what’s a smart question you could ask right now of that potential client that would help you understand their situation?

  • Me is Scarce. Scarce is valuable.

    Me is Scarce. Scarce is valuable.

    We get scared.

    We try to show our “good side.”

    Other people can provide our “good side”

    Since other people can do it, it’s not scarce.

    When we do our best work, we’re using our full selves. Using our history of creating art, all our therapy, our relationship with our neighbor, broken fingernail. That’s the fun work and that’s the valuable work. It’s hard for me to believe every time. Just like it’s hard to believe that something’s healthy and tastes good.

    When l am hiring people, I’m looking for people that show up fully – people that are willing to give it all. Task people aren’t worth much. Human individuals are worth a lot. Each one is 1 of a kind. There’s no competition.

    Take Action : Train your attention

    journal one of your favorite moments of creation. write down a list of parts of yourself that went into it.

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