While I’m coaching people, we get to work to find their blind spots. We as entertainment badasses usually think our blindspots are the things that aren’t working, but there’s a large chunk of things that are working that we don’t notice.
In fact, everything that we’re doing right now is working. It’s all working together to get ourselves and our projects exactly where we are at this moment. SUCCESS!
Let’s get dispassionate
Understanding that we’re not doing certain things right and certain things wrong can help us make small dispassionate decisions that have big effects. We can take the burden and shame away and see what we want to modify.
Sometimes it take an outside eye to help identify what’s working.
For example, someone might say “I’ve been selling CDs on the street for three years. It’s terrible. I have to go out and talk to strangers and force them to listen to my music. I have to duplicate the CDs myself and sell them one by one.”
I would say to them, “Did you just say ‘three years?’ You’ve been supporting yourself and your family for three years doing this! It is working! As we move forward, you would like your work to look different. You would like to make more money. We can examine ways to modify work, but let’s do it from the perspective of thriving, because you’re killing it!”
The fear of dispassionate
I believe it’s common for creatives to think they’re driven by passion. We often ascribe calm with passivity, but calm is usually a strong position for progress.
Think about driving a car…
- we are making progress
- we are not asleep
- we are not lazy
- we are focussed
- we are not freaked out
When we freak out, when we get tense, when we get sleepy, we are in more danger as drivers. Same with making. Calm focus.
We don’t jerk the wheel back and forth to stay in the lane while screaming. We appreciate that we’re safe right now and we make calculated adjustments.