Real love is internal. Real gratitude is internal.
We can express our love or our gratitude. Expression is external. It’s helpful to have a starting place of how to express the stuff.
Start with effect
Magic catalogs list tricks starting with the effect. They first describe what the audience sees. Telling the story of something impossible happening. Here’s an example from penguin magic…
You show a coin and place it on your spectator’s hand. With complete confidence you wave your hand (fingers open) over the coin…
The coin vanishes right before the spectator’s eyes in one of the most visual moments in all of magic. The best part is, your hands can be shown completely clean!
Explaining the difference the trick makes is a great way to describe the trick in a way that matters. Explaining the difference in ourselves is a great way to express love. Instead of “I love you sooo much” saying “my eyes go crossed when I think of your smile”
More examples…
- “You made me rethink my situation and it blew me away”
- “that one small gift is still sticking in my head 3 years later”
- “it inspires me to see what you’re doing for kids”
- “I could really use a wink from you right now”
Real love … real words
We can want people to do things for us and love them at the same time. We can think that things that are good for us are mutually beneficial. When I tell artists to fall in love with their customers, I mean it genuinely. Love people. Express the love. Sincerely. being real is more fun and more convincing and more valuable to everyone.
Easy to believe
When there’s some objectivity, there’s believability. Saying the result of love makes us sound more real. It feels good to remind ourselves what we mean by love. It attunes us to what’s important to us.